Unsaid!

One question that we all are asking ourselves everyday, “How the other person is feeling about me?”

Well, we can't know that and we know that! We can only assume by their behaviour! HOW could we know what someone is feeling or thinking about us? The fact is we can only know what people want to show us, what they actually feel and think will always be unsaid! No one is what we think they are! Secrets and insidious thoughts lie behind the curtain! However, it doesn't mean that the person is not good, maybe the situation is not good! Maybe this 'How’ is not in our control but at least what is in our control is to share things and maintain a transparency with the people we trust. It may help avoid the misunderstandings, bad situations or wrong happenings without thinking how that person will react. Outrage and immediate anger is better than lifetime of something unbearable UNSAID! So many things happen just because we don't express, we suppress those feelings! But sometimes it's better to share everything we don't want to say, without thinking about the person in front you. It may hurt his feelings or he may react weird but at the end, it will be for the sake of good. Good for both!

In situations, where you may have time to react, how should you react? Well, simply said: 'treat how you want to be treated'. One's reaction should be practical and thoughtful no matter what the situation is! The person could be going through tough times and he may not have any other option. First listen then react!

How we would know what is going to happen?How our intentions didn't reach the way we want to? How our reactions could differ from what we actually are?
Something we imagine or assume may turn out completely different. So many questions that we didn't answers to! These are lessons that life will teach us. So many people share their feelings, their experiences, their tragedies so that we can learn something from it rather than just reading it. They share their story because what happened to them can be avoided with prophylactic measures. No one wants to be in bad situations, so at least we can pay attention and stay alert about what has already happened with people around us! Open up about yourself, do not hesitate or hide anything which might kill you from inside! Nothing is unbearable at initial stage, but as time passes, it becomes harder to accept and even harder to tell! Try and share everything with your close ones, the people you trust. Someday, things will be out your control and you won't be able to hold it inside anymore.

So many ‘Hows’ that we all don't know where, when and actually How is going to happen! But one thing we all know is how we got everything in our life! And that’s what matters. It will reflect what we will be someday! Maybe we will have everything we want, but will it happen?! And if it is going to, then how it will happen is the big question! It is said that things happen for a reason. Believe it or not, it is for your better future and it will definitely reflect in the future. Always support each other in bad, always stay positive and always try to understand everything! Maybe it could save someone's life! Please don't ignore whatever people share about their life, maybe someday you can avoid the mistakes the same people went through! Just be honest in every moment, be clear and clean with everyone, every time! No matter what, don't ever try to hide your pain or else it will consume you. Didn't ever be ashamed of sharing anything! It's just that the situations are tough! Don't let it leave a mark in your life, try to think of it as a small phase out your life.

This is Rotli. Unsaid is Unpaid, you have to pay! Learn from others, they don't share their tragedies for fun!  Please share all the problems. There is a solution to everything and it happens for our betterment after we accept, apologize and forgive everything!